Category: Relationships
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That Will Never Happen To Us
“Never say never.” But we’ve all said it anyway. Before we married, we had a number of things that we imagined would never happen to us. Things we wrongly assumed only happened to careless people, or to people who couldn’t be bothered to take necessary prevention measures such as obsessively repeating: “Tufiakwa!” “It is…
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Friend Zoned
My first clue should have been the text messages. Earlier in our marriage, Naijawife could send me up to 30 messages a day. Mostly in the same theme. I don’t mean to share too much information, but that’s what I was used to seeing from her. Those mid-morning “thinking about you” reminders that…
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You Might Not Be Superman…
As usual, it had been a long day. So I did what I always do after a long day….watch mindless television shows. NaijaHusband wasn’t home so I sprawled out luxuriously on the settee, fitting my body into the grooves he’d worked so hard on molding perfectly to his shape when he watches his favorite shows.…
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You Know Its Love When
Another joyful thing about marriage is the way your concept of love changes from when you were dating. Gone are the definitions of love according to the initial rush and the “butterfly feelings.” Instead, love becomes something much more real and you start to definite it with something more concrete. So we’ve started a series…
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Shower Caps and Chicken Bones
Shower caps are not sexy. Neither are hairnets, hair scarves, do-rags, hair pins or those colorful sticks naijawife sometimes puts in her hair. Yet my married life has been full of all these items. I work very late at night, so typically by the time I come home, Naijawife is just finishing her typical hours-long…
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Bathroom Beef Ko, Toilet Beef Ni
This is Naijawife’s Rebuttal piece to Bathroom Beef written by Naija Husband! When I was a little girl, if my siblings annoyed me and I went to report them to my parents, they would allow me to rant and rave for a few minutes and then they would ask “So what did you yourself do to…
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I have Bathroom Beef
Naijawife and I were asked why we had separate bathrooms on Twitter recently. I answered that it was to save our marriage from self-destruction. I have serious bathroom “beef” with my wife. So great in fact that I’ve asked her to write a response to this post and tell her own side of the story. …
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Equal Partnership In a Marriage?
When I hear the words “equal partnership” I immediately picture this quote: Recently, the Huffington Post asked its married readers to give advice on how to maintain an equal partnership in marriage. I submitted my thoughts and fortunately they published it (they cite me as “Naija” as opposed to Naija Husband). Here’s what I said: “Though…